“Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day; teach him to fish and you feed him for a lifetime”
Exam times are not the only reasons for children to stay focused. Keeping their attention and concentration on the lessons as they are being taught is more crucial than just during exam times. And if they are taught the art of practicing focus, it becomes second nature to them thereby eliminating the need to be on their backs their whole lives.
Technological advances have brought with them a whole load of distractions by means of social media, movies and books all at the click of a button. Children spend maximum time online; some surf and some study. So is this article an advice to parent to ban social media and all electronic gadgets from children’s lives? Certainly not. A happy child with a happy mind is the basis for focus and depriving them is only going to make them sulk and is going to take their minds away from studies than ever.
Talking about the practice of focus in our children, we cannot overemphasize the age-old adage “Work while you work, play while you play”. Kids are never going to be completely satisfied with their time on gadgets or games if they aren’t fully into them. Let them enjoy their time without reminding them every 5 minutes about their cut off time or the bleak future because of “supposedly” unproductive time which kills the joy out of their little pleasure pursuits.
Just as we would want uninterrupted study time devoid of phone calls, messaging, social media or TV, it also becomes our prerogative to give them uninterrupted play time devoid of thoughts about studies, future, admissions, life goals etc. Allow them contentment and happiness out of their relaxation time – be it outdoor time or electronic gadgets as situation may be.
The mind is a very complex aspect to understand but a bit of introspect will help us to help our children deal with focusing issues. As adults, when we need our diversions like coffee/water cooler gossips, night out with friends and vacations to refresh and rejuvenate, so do kids who are just an extension of our personalities. I’m sure almost all of us understand the need for allowing them their “ME” time. But how complete and satiated we make it is in our hands. Constantly nagging them and creating a fear in their minds about future is only going to make them have a negative outlook about life and imbibes hatred towards studies which may become a long-term affliction. Everyone detests a nasty boss and cheeky colleagues, and who wouldn’t love to work in a peaceful and fun environment? Do we agree on the verity of the statement “Happy employees lead to better productivity”? Then I’m sure we also would agree that same goes for children.
Let us create happiness in our children’s minds. Watch them soar the skies.