Bad Words from Good Kids – How to successfully stop your child from using bad language

Nothing can really prepare you when your child uses a bad word or harsh language with you for the first time. After the initial shock wears off, you are left thinking how to best address this issue before it gets out of control!

Here is how you can approach this issue calmly.


For children under 4 years of age, just ignoring it is the best practice. They may not even understand the meaning of the bad words. But if they know they can get a reaction by using bad or harsh words, they will continue to do it. Whereas, ignoring it will take the fun out of the game. Eventually they will know it’s not something important enough for your attention and stop.

Another technique is to substitute the bad word with a similar sounding word. Eg, if your child says “shit” change the word around with something like “Do you want a shirt?”

Young Children

Young children probably do understand the meaning of or the context of the bad words. Of course, if you demand directly that your child stops using that word, it is not going to work and neither is anger.

Try to observe when is it that your child uses bad language. Is it when he/she is stressed, tired or hungry? In that case, simply attend to that immediate need.

Older Children

Children usually mimic adults or people around them who they look up to. If bad language is common around your child, then punishing is not going to solve the problem. It is probably better to sit down with an older child and explain to them that bad words cause hurt and pain on people. Next you could try to explain why people around them swear a lot by offering explanations like “It is not ok to swear but Uncle Ajay swears sometimes because that is the way adults cry”

Another alternative is to get to the root cause of why your child is swearing so much. He/she maybe experiencing some undue peer pressure to fit into a particular group or he/she maybe trying to appear cool. Alternately, they may be using bad words in the wrong context. In any case, it is best to sit down with your child and get talking to find out what has brought on this kind of behavior.

And last but not the least, start with yourself. If you react with anger or sudden outbursts, you will not raise a child who can have control over their negative feelings. So if you believe that your child is mimicking you, start by correcting yourself.

Then Observe why and when your child uses bad language. It could be a major change in their routine, new friend circle or situations that they don’t enjoy being in. Often the root cause is easy to identify and fix.

Spend special time with your child every single day. This is a great way of knowing what is going on in their life. That way you and your child will feel more connected to each other and easy to open up about issues.

And lastly, relax! A few bad words doesn’t mean that your child is going to turn out to be a criminal! They just needs you to be there for them!

Is It Okay To Lie To Your Kids?

The earliest lie I remember telling my daughter was that the dead bug she found in the garden was actually sleeping!

We all do it. Lie to our kids so that life becomes easier, not just for us but for the kids too! But is it an acceptable form of parenting? We believe not. Parents lie about death, bad news, etc to protect their children. But in reality, children understand much more than we think! Whether we like it or not!

So what’s the alternative? Read on to find some alternatives to lies which we put together for you.

If you don’t do this, I will…

Making up a consequence and threatening your kids with it is negative reinforcement. For example, ”If you don’t listen to Mamma, the monster will come and take you away”

Alternative: Motivate instead of threaten. Kids can eventually see through our attempts and will not trust our responses in future. Instead use positive reinforcement. “If you listen to mommy, we can play together in the sand pit” (or substitute with something your child likes doing.)

The Cover-Up Lie

Sometimes we lie to make things easier for us too. For example, when you don’t want to buy that unnecessary toy in the supermarket a typical response is “I've forgotten my wallet at home.”

Alternative: We agree that this is an easier response. I mean who wants a wailing child in the middle of a supermarket! But instead of avoiding creating a scene, tell your child the truth. “I think you have enough toys so you don’t need anymore. But we can have an ice-cream together” It’s better to tell the truth and allow your child to experience and live through the feelings of controlling their impulse.

Different rules for children

You hated math as a kid, but want your child to love math, so you tell him/her “I loved math as a kid” in a bid to have him/her take to it.

Alternative: Don’t be tempted into this kind of lying because honestly it won’t really affect the kids’ opinion of Math and you will be wasting your precious words. Instead, don’t say anything. When they realize on their own whether they want to love or hate or remain neutral towards math, respect that feeling.

The Protective Lie

“Daddy and I are not fighting, we’re just talking..” Shielding children from uncomfortable circumstances will never teach them to confront such situations later in life.

Alternative: Instead, state facts. “Daddy and I are having a discussion and we don’t seem to agree.” Follow your child’s lead. If telling only a bit of truth seems to satisfy him/her, leave it at that. Else, keep giving facts till he/she appears satisfied.

And finally, no matter what your kids ask you, try to answer their questions truthfully. Keep answers simple, don’t overburden them with lots of unnecessary information.

At MLZS, we believe that every child is born with an inherent integrity that always makes him/her say the truth. That is why children are so innocent and truthful most of the times. We strive to keep the inherent integrity of every child intact through role modeling. Our teachers and our entire staff lives through this value every single day.

Understanding ADHD: Information for Parents

The most marked behavioral trait of any child is impulsiveness. There are many times when a child’s behavior veers out of control. And at other times he/she may seem to be constantly day dreaming.

Both behaviors are usually quite harmless and a part of growing up. It is only when such behavior becomes repetitive and starts interfering with normal day to day life, is when parents have cause to worry. ADHD usually affects children more than adults and 4 % of all children suffer from some type of ADHD. A real diagnosis is only given by a child psychiatrist.

What is ADHD? Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder

ADHD is a condition of the brain that makes it difficult for children to control their behavior. It is one of the most common chronic conditions of childhood. ADHD is diagnosed in about 3 times more boys than girls. 
The condition affects behavior in specific ways.  But how to determine if a child has ADHD. Here are a few symptoms of ADHD

·         Inattention
ü  Had hard time paying attention and day dreams
ü  Doesn’t seem to listen very often
ü  Easily distracted from work and play
ü  Inattention to detail, silly mistakes
ü  Is disorganized
ü  Frequently avoids doing things that require mental effort
·         Hyperactivity
ü  Is in constant motion, as if driven by a motor
ü  Difficulty staying seated
ü  Squirms and fidgets constantly
ü  Runs, jumps and climbs things despite not being permitted to do so
ü  Can’t play quietly
·         Impulsivity
ü  Acts and speaks without thinking
ü  Runs around without checking surroundings first
ü  Cannot wait turns
ü  Interrupts others frequently
ü  Answers before the question is complete

Children with ADHD may not show all of the above symptoms. If a parent or the child’s teacher observes any symptoms, the initial intervention is to be made by the Pediatrician. Unless and otherwise diagnosed and certified by a psychiatrist, the child is not labeled as having ADHD.

If you happen to interact with a child who seems to be hyperactive, here are a few tips:

·         Do not use the word “do not”, instead put your instructions in  a positive note

·         Give simple instructions to divert the attention

·         If the child throws tantrums, just ignore the tantrum and try diverting

·         Don’t embarrass the parent by staring or giving suggestions. Parents are the best teachers  in this situation. 

The article has been written courtesy Ms. Abirami Umashankar, Special Educator at MLZS HSR Extension. Through her valued insights and continuous support, we have been able to nurture a successful inclusive environment at Mount Litera Zee School HSR.

Sharing Of Knowledge - An Engaging Account of Legacy Building Through Sharing by Ms. Mallareddy Pushpalata (Primary Coordinator)

This statement is very true because we share whatever we learn and practice in life with someone or the other. Some of those whom we follow may have even passed away. However, their teachings and guidance always remain with us.
Fond are those memories and vivid in detail, of days of our early childhood, spent at home and school. Remember the adage, ‘Teach a child a habit and likely, that the child will retain the habit forever’. Well, more than teaching, it is the sharing of ideas, thoughts, experiences, knowledge etc. which create the sense of understanding and realization in young school going children.
I recall, as a fourth grader, I found it difficult to apply different formats of letter-writing. It simplified when my father shared what he had learnt from his teacher, who taught in a government-run school, 25 years ago.
Today, both my father and his teacher have left this world. However, that little bit of knowledge passed on to me continues to make letter-writing an easy and simple activity.
As a teacher in MLZS, I am imparting that same knowledge to the students in my class.
Sharing is certainly not limited to knowledge. Young children absorb a lot from their environment.
The development of concepts about good and bad, right and wrong, moral and immoral etc. is to a great extent determined by the behavior, attitude and habits of parents and teachers.
Ms Janny, my teacher in the fifth grade, was sweet and kind-hearted, and taught us in a way, which helped me to understand good deeds and actions.
My English language teacher till the 10thgrade left deep impressions on me with her attitude and behavior with students. I remember clearly how she encouraged freedom of expression and used anecdotes to create simple explanations.
In the last nine years, as a teacher, I have always felt that my teacher was with me as my guide and mentor. I have never felt at a loss because I remember her ways and try to put them into practice.

Ten years from now my students may not remember me but they will carry on the knowledge which I shared with them.
Sharing knowledge, and not just academic knowledge, is a legacy builder and all of us are linked to its immortality.   
At MLZS, I practice what I teach, and when parents realize positive changes in their children because of such a methodology, it brings a sense of satisfaction and happiness.
Ms. Mallareddy Pushpalata has been with MLZS since the last 3 years. In addition to being a primary coordinator, she also teaches English to Grade 5 and 6.

Inclusive Education

What is Inclusive education?

Inclusive education means that all children, regardless of their ability level, are included in a mainstream classroom and are taught as equals with teachers adjusting their curriculum and teaching methodologies, so that all students benefit.

Inclusive education believes in ‘Every child is capable of learning!’

The goal of inclusive education is to provide a favourable and normalized learning environment for special needs children and to provide this experience in the least restrictive environment possible.

This can be justified legally, morally, socio-culturally and educationally. Legally, it ensures equality of educational opportunities and equal protection under the law. Morally, it is regarded as a means of reducing isolation. From a socio-cultural perspective, it increases the potential contribution of special needs individuals to society at large. Educationally, it provides the special needs children with positive models and reinforcements.

Teaching educators about the importance of inclusion and how to run inclusive classroom is imperative for reaching the goal of education for all.

We, in MLZS, believe in inclusive education and have adopted this as part of our education system in all our schools.

Teachers in MLZS are trained in teaching methods that include students of all ability. They are sensitive, supportive and committed to make inclusive education successful.

We also have resource rooms with special educators to help the regular classroom teachers with individualized education programme for special needs children. The child gets support in the resource room with modifications and/or accommodations in the regular classroom. Special educators design an educational programme to meet the specific needs of the students to maximize their learning potential .The special educator works closely with the child’s regular classroom teacher and the parents.

Madhushree Bhat
Special Educator.

(I am working as a Special Educator in MLZS South School from the past one year. I have completed my Post graduate Diploma in Learning Disability from KPAMRC. I was motivated by my friend who has been a special educator for the past 10-15 years and has seen her working with special needs children and making a difference in their lives.)

A List Of Must-Watch Movies With The Family This Summer!

Its show time, folks!

We decided to send this post out because we know that watching movies as a family is a hot favorite during vacations.

Here is a list from the Mount Litera Zee School, which you can sample from, but before then, read on to find out how cinema can be a useful and beneficial tool of learning for children.

If books give detailed and vivid descriptions of almost everything in and about the world, consider movies to be a rapid montage of screenshots, which often encapsulate a whole lifetime in a handful of minutes.

Most attempt to give a message, some do, others partially.

The variety and diversity of cinema bouncing on air-waves are only as vast as your imagination allows it to be. And not everything out there is meant for a child’s prying eyes!

Therefore, the selection of the right viewing material for your children is a serious, but fun responsibility.

It makes it a whole lot easier if parents use movies as a learning medium.

Different movies carry specific messages which can produce a lasting impact in a child’s mind.

Apollo 13 underlined the values of teamwork. Remember The Titans showed us how prejudice and fear can be overcome with compassion and love. And Doubt, no doubt, made us realise that we must not judge others prematurely.

So, the next time you go out and watch a movie as a family, don’t forget to follow it up with a learning question. A simple “What did you learn?” or “What do you think?” will do.

You may find the resulting discussion to be an eye-opener about how well your child uses natural ability to learn and understand.

And if you are too concerned about the odd instance of a mad chase or a gunfight, perhaps you can use those symbols to drive home the importance of safety and security in a violent world.

The final word: Enjoy the movies with your kids. You’ll have a great time as long as you don’t forget the soda and popcorn!

But when you pick the flick, do ensure some mental nutrition for your children, along with the entertainment.

The following titles are screened for the students of Mount Litera Zee School.



The Summer Reading List for Your Child

I remember during my summer vacations as a school-going child, my mother always insisted that I read a book before I went out and played with my friends.

This one rule was entirely non-negotiable. One book, she’d say, else no play for Jack!So I read a book every day during every summer vacation!Little did I notice when that rule no longer felt as one.

Lying on my bunk, all I did was read, and cultivated and fed the habit. From Famous Fives, Secret Sevens, The Hardy Boys, thousands, or so it feels, of Amar Chitra Kathas, Tintin, any kind of comic for that matter, WW2 illustrations to epics and so on.

I suddenly realised that my empire of knowledge was expanding and that created a different sense of thrill.As a child, I was fascinated with the size of breakfasts and picnics in an English countryside! I knew that American kids at 16 drove jalopies and went on daredevil adventures; I was convinced that WW2 was pale in comparison to the battles in the Mahabharata; some books told me about the universe and its stars and planets, and others engrossed me with tales of wild imaginations and fantasies; it is endless!

Today, looking back, I can guarantee that it is the ONE habit which can create a whole world of difference.I remember reading somewhere:“Pity the man who doesn’t read, his life will be nought but arid!”
However, inculcating the habit of reading in young children requires an all-round effort, both at home and school.Parents have to lead by example. Children emulate their adults, and if parents don’t read in front of their children, then the kids won’t either. Special time must be set aside for reading and story-telling sessions at home.

Schools, especially, play a very important role in developing this habit in young children. Schools must feel responsible to establish a book club, organise book fairs and other activities designed to pique the interest of reading in children.

Mount Litera Zee School, for instance, runs extensive and comprehensive reading programs designed for children from Grade 1 to Grade 9.

The following list of books, categorised by different grades, gives an insight into the school’s commitment to develop the habit of reading in its students. 
Take a look!
Grade 1
a) Danny and the Dinosaur by Syd Hoff 
b) The Polar Express by Chris Van Allsburg
c) The Cat in the Hat by Dr Seuss
d) Curious George by H.A.Rey

Grade 2
a) Fantastic Mr Fox by Roald Dahl 
b) Lemonade in Winter: A Book About Two Kids Counting by Emily Jenkins 
c) Scaredy Squirrel by Melanie Watt 
d) Diary of a Wimpy Kid by Jeff Kinney 

Grade 3 
a) Charlie & the Chocolate Factory by Roald Dahl
b) Diary of a Wimpy Kid by Jeff Kinney 
c) Classics for Young Readers, Vol. 3 by Joln Holdren
d) The story of Dr Dolittle by Hugh Lofting

Grade 4a) The Complete Grimm's Fairy Tales by Jacob Grimm
b) White Fangs by Jack London
c) Jungle Book by Rudyard Kipling
d) Famous Five series by Enid Blyton

Grade 5 
a) Matilda by Roald Dahl
b) Robinson Crusoe by Daniel Defoe
c) Treasure Island by R.L.Stevenson
d) Heidi by J Sypree

Grade 6
a) Chronicles of Narnia, Vol. 1 by C.S.Lewis
b) The Famous Five Series by Enid Blyton
c) The Nancy Drew Series under the collective pseudonym Carolyn Keene

d) Harry Potter and the Sorcerer's Stone by J K Rowling

Grade 7
a) Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets by J K Rowling
b) The Nancy Drew Series under the collective pseudonym Carolyn Keene
c) The Three Musketeers by Alexandre Dumas (must read!)
d) Percy Jackson by Rick Riordan

Grade 8
a) Diary of a Young Girl by Anna Frank
b) Harry Potter and the Prisoner of Azkaban by J K Rowling
c) Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire by J K Rowling
 d) A Christmas Carol by Charles Dickens

Grade 9
a) Harry Potter and the Half-Blood Prince by J K Rowling
b) Diary of Anna Frank by Anna Frank
c) Murder on the Orient Express by Agatha Cristie
d) Little Women by Louisa M Alcott

Some more recommended reading for students of Grade 1 and upwards:
David Copperfield by Charles Dickens
Oliver Twist by Charles Dickens
The Man in the Iron Mask by Alexandre Dumas
The Hound of Baskervilles by Sir Arthur Conan Doyle
Jo's Boys and Little Men by Louisa May Alcott
A tale of Two Cities by Charles Dickens

Why are we making such a hue and cry about this?!Because:·     
Reading doesn’t only help academically; it gives more panoramic information about the world.
·         Reading is a great tool to building and grooming personalities.
·         Not everything can be taught at home and school, and the only available supplement is reading.
·         Reading can help develop good and interesting hobbies.
·         Reading can expose latent potential and areas of skills development.
·         Reading can build extensive vocabularies and command of language.
·         Reading can be a great catalyst to expand the imagination and aid lateral thinking or thinking out of the box.

Need we say more?!

Communicating With Children

Being able to effectively communicate with children is perhaps one of the most important parenting skills.

It, of course, means investing quality time with the family, especially with the children. And by that, I mean, turn off the TV, keep the iPod away and definitely, get rid of the mobile phone.

Communication with children entails a two-way conversation littered with changing emotional contexts and impulsive behaviours, which requires careful listening, patience and genuine involvement.

Why is it important to spend the time to communicate?

Firstly, children create views influenced by their daily experiences, hence healthy and positive communication experiences allow children to know and understand more about themselves.

Several studies have concluded that the best parent-offspring relationship is fostered by positive interactions. When parents and their children communicate and discuss everything with each other regularly, it creates less conflict, and if there is any conflict, it’s also easier to resolve it.

Research also suggests that when adults show a genuine interest in what children have to say, it creates less aberration in behaviour of action, which requires disciplining.

Nowhere is this more pertinent than in home and school.

Parents and teachers alike must be aware of the fact that their communication method and behaviour has to be appropriate to the age of the child, to build self-esteem and mutual respect.

Here are some basic principles which we can all follow when communicating with children.

·         Listen! And that means, really listen. It gives a clear message to the child that you are interested and involved.
·         If it’s not the end of the world on the news or the family soap opera, then please switch off the TV, or the music, or close the book or paper you are reading, when your child wants to talk to you.
·         Children communicate better in a one-to-one situation, so make that possible by creating a sense of privacy.
·         No one likes to be put on the spot, and children are emotionally sensitive, more than you think, so don’t embarrass or belittle the child in front of others. This will create defensive behaviour bordering on hostility.
·         Always get down to the child’s physical level during a conversation.
·         Sometimes children can be trying and if you lose your cool, don’t communicate till you have regained your composure. A word or two said in heat can cause lasting resentment and regret.
·         I cannot over-emphasize the importance of listening. When the day has been really long and hard, you have to make a greater effort to listen to the child trying to tell his/her story.
·         Do not dismiss suggestions made by your child nonchalantly. For example, refrain from saying things like “Don’t get involved in what others do” or “What’s the sense in that?”
·         Also, avoid using words like stupid, dumb, lazy, etc which will diminish the child’s view of themselves and their self-esteem.
·         Children often make mistakes. Instead of deriding them, what’s more effective is to encourage the child to keep the communication open. There isn’t much point in asking why something happened, knowing and understanding what happened will be rather more fruitful.
·         Children, frequently want to hear words of encouragement and praise. When you use words like great, marvellous, excellent, correct etc, they create a sense of achievement. Children feel loved and appreciated.
·         Finally, while words and the manner in which they are communicated to a child play a crucial role, non verbal communication gestures such as a pat on the back, smile, nod, showing approval, eye contact etc, will help in completing a wholesome interaction with a child.

Children epitomise the behaviour of their parents and teachers. The right model of communication will enable a child to share their thoughts, ideas, opinions and emotions, comfortably and uninhibitedly.

Unique Talent Spotting Exercises at Mount Litera Zee School, Bangalore

We hear about tennis and chess prodigies coming from relatively impoverished backgrounds in Russia. Back home, we also know about Rajinikanth, superstar of the Film Industry and his humble background as a bus conductor. All around us, there are instances where people have inherent talents that were spotted just in time by a Good Samaritan and changed their lives forever.

Influence of Early Talent Spotting in Adult Years

There are abilities and talents that are inherent in children. All they need is a range of exposure and a good quality of exposure to help them hone that skill and excel at it. As a school that believes in spotting talent early, we have observed that children who are exposed to a range of activities early on, have a greater chance of finding their true talents and being a success at it. This leaves them with more time on hand to practice as well as find the correct medium to express themselves to the public.
To support our theory, we have cemented a broad based curriculum for children across all ages at Mount Litera Zee Schools under SamSidh Group.

We believe that every child is gifted

This may sound like a very convenient statement to make, but it’s not. And we know every parent has at one point or another believed that their child has a special ability. Over the years, the belief that every child is actually unique and has talents has only grown stronger.
Here are some of the ways in which we let a child blossom and give ample opportunity for his/her unique and natural talents to surface.

·  Observing Natural Interests: What a child enjoys or shows curiosity about during his/her free time is a great way to learn about his natural interests. Once we discover it, the next step is to find out if he displays exceptional understanding and ability when it comes to that activity. And finally, we expose the child more and more to higher level of the activity, at the same time helping with everything we can to sharpen that skill.

·  CCA - Co-Curricular Activities: MLZS has a dedicated hour when competitions (individual and group) are conducted on sports and various topics. The topics range from projects, presentations, recitation, art, craft, quiz and much more to help provide a wide range of exposure to all our children.

·  Daily Assembly: During the Assembly, the students are given a free reign to choose various topics and talk about them. This includes presentations which is another way of giving exposure to fine oratory and writing skills.

·  School Council with Prefects: Leadership emerges strongest when children are given various responsible roles like class in charge, discipline in charge, cleanliness in charge etc. Our teachers closely observe the ability of each and every child who receives this responsibility.

·  Everyday Classroom Activity: Our classroom activities are centered on the children. Each day is a new and fresh exercise for them to experiment with new tasks that our teachers have specifically set for them with the intent of exposing them to as wide a field of activities as possible.

Apart from this children who do well academically, are routinely checked if their performance is best in any particular field.

At home, support your child’s budding talent with tireless zeal yourself. If your child insists on visiting the aquarium again and again to look at the stars more closely, he is fascinated by the field of astrology.

“Talent without discipline is like an octopus on roller skates. There's plenty of movement, but you never know if it's going to be forward, backwards, or sideways.”
- H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

It is Better to Give than to Receive - By Vazira

“No-one has ever become poor by giving.” - Anne Frank.

Every year, Diwali heralds a burst of activity in every Indian household. In the center of these tumultuous days of preparing for the festival, stands the lady of the house.

This day, every year, new clothes have to be bought for the children (I am now an expert in internet fashion!), an unending supply of goodies to cook (it’s a sleight of hand!), and not to mention giving the house a thorough spring cleaning (and I’m not a spring chicken!). It was more tiring than the toughest of my teaching days. And if that’s not all, the lady of the house has to look special!!!

This Diwali was unusual. Surrounded by whoops and glees of my children, I suddenly realized how everyone deserved to smile on this day. Tired as I felt, I couldn’t help remembering that Diwali is a celebration of the victor, Good, over its adversary, Evil. Surely, that’s a reason for everyone to smile!

There are two maids who help out with the domestic chores. I gave them a saree and some cash each. I gave more cash to the fellow who cleans our car, and then I gave some to the garbage collector, and a few others, who I felt were less fortunate. I felt satisfied knowing that the money is more than welcome.

I even refrained from bargaining while shopping for Diwali with small-time roadside vendors selling lamps, candles and flowers. I could see that they could do a bit for their families with the extra cash and that was a source of great elation for me.

I could see the smiles on the faces of their children, and that proved to be exhilarating! My initial drive to see a smile on everyone on Diwali created this deep realization that giving is a wonderful thing to do! Much better than receiving!

For instance, I now understand why Bill Gates with his majestic billions, not only invests so much time and energy in third-world countries, but also his billions. He is helping millions of poor people lead a better life rather than spending it in luxurious, hedonistic living.
To change someone’s life for the better, to be the agent of that change, to put a smile on a face, are blessings, I felt.

As a teacher, it hit me right in the middle. All this while, unknowingly, I had unconditionally given and shared with my students. It dawned on me that I’m very fortunate to receive their genuine love, respect and admiration. I came to the conclusion that the very act of giving is a sacred lesson every institution should epitomize to its students.

Look at the difference a noble act of giving can make. Helping someone with money can create instant relief. Hundreds of youngsters gave their time and energy for the Teach India Movement. The soldiers of our country take it one step further by putting their lives on the line for the love of the country and its people.

The more and more I thought about it, I am convinced that every child should understand the act of giving and sharing from an early age. Not only parents, but also schools must create an atmosphere of giving and sharing.

I am of the firm belief, that teach a child a good habit and the child will keep that habit for a lifetime.
I know! I have proof!