“Pride is concerned with WHO is right and humility is concerned with WHAT is right”
Before learning how to be it is important to know how not to be. Though poles apart, there is a very thin line that divides arrogance and humility. That line is called confidence. While arrogance is a result of deep rooted insecurity and fears, humility is the mind to accept one’s faults.
If we could stop for a moment and make a list of people whom we like, the ones most likely to top the list would be those who make us feel important, feel good and create a feeling of comfort with their approach – they are the humble people. Not just our near and dear ones, even the leaders we emulate and look for inspiration are those with a humble disposition. It wouldn’t be an exaggeration to take it a step further to say that it is this attribute which made them leaders in the first place. So what makes humility so important for a leadership position, or rather a leadership quality?
- Self-realization: A humble leader knows his strengths and weaknesses and has the courage to accept and agree publicly. This makes him more human and approachable as people immediately tend to have an instant connect.
- Humane leader or just a human? : No one in their right sense would want to work under an egomaniac who achieves success with threats, shaming and intimidation. Power is not an authority to abuse but to encourage, motivate and bring out the best in his employees. An employee should perform out of his self-will and motivation and not out of fear. A humble leader acknowledges the skills and hard work and creates an environment of collaboration and not of competition among his employees.
The first step towards instilling this leadership quality in our own children is of course by being a role model ourselves. But beyond this, there are certain attributes we need to develop in us parents to ensure they learn it right.
Appreciation and motivation for well-deserved achievements is certainly vital, but at the same time, let us also soak up this feeling in them that while their feats are certainly cherished and valued, our love does not stem from these. Our love is a result of what they are and not for what they have. This would sink into them the conviction that love and compassion is for humanity and not for our skills, materialistic possessions or looks.
Humans always have this inherent quality to desire what we lack. While it’s all good to be able to afford, let us realize and make our children also understand that there are many out there who are deprived of the basic necessities of human survival. Exposing children to such realities and making them experience the joy of giving instills compassion alongside.
Words have the power to make or break and the choice of words also creates associated attributes. Teaching them the basics of courtesy like Thank You and Sorry imbibes humility with practice; because there is nothing better than gratitude for our gifts from God and accepting our faults with apologies that makes one a better person and consequently a better leader.
Humility is NOT humiliation. Humility comes from practice and observation and humiliating a child only makes them meek; not modest.
Give your child enough confidence to hold the head up and enough humility to not look down upon others. But remember, the moment you acknowledge your humility, it ceases to exist.