Each child is unique and so are their talents. Some have conventional ones which are easily identifiable like music, dance, drawing and painting, oration and alike. Yet, others have some offbeat ones like humor, mimicry, voice throwing and so on. Every talent needs identification first and then nurturing to shine though. Children themselves are not aware of their abilities and skills unless parents recognize and start honing them. Unless talents are spotted and nourished in their formative years, it may be too late to flourish or may never come out and remain suppressed for life which may stay hidden in the locked cages of the minds.
The first step towards talent recognition is to be watchful. Not hawk like as it would only boomerang but being aware of anything special the child may display- even an ability to whistle can be nurtured and made to shine. Appreciation and motivation drives any human towards betterment and children are no different. It even helps to expose the children to different fields like sports, dance, drama, theatre, laughter clubs etc. to see where the child shows interest and flair. Some children may only be interested in reading and parents may wonder what talent to derive out of it. It is important to remember that voracious readers have an insatiable appetite for knowledge or fantasy depending on their choice of genre but broadly speaking, all book enthusiasts are knowledge seekers. Their expertise could be in academics or maybe not too. They may show partiality towards story telling/reading sessions which may hint at the possibility of a budding author or poet lurking inside.
As parents we need to stop taking talents too seriously to the extent of competing and winning which would put undue pressure on the child to the extent that the child may start detesting his/her flair or skills. Talents are to be nurtured to be enjoyed and not to flaunt to show superiority. Commanding public display of their talents may sometimes not be liked by the child depending on the personality. Outgoing children may voluntarily come forward to display their skills in front of an unfamiliar audience too while some like to keep it personal. Let us learn to respect their choices against forcing and coercion which will only lead to resentment later on.
Parenting is a huge responsibility and we many a time fall through the cracks and crevices; invariably more crevices than cracks. Let us be fair to ourselves and pat ourselves for a work well done than beat us up over a failure. Learning to accept that some things are just not meant to be and everything has a limit and so does parenting will rid us of our guilt and help us be better and realistic parents. And that’s what the world needs – realism.
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